Thank you to all

I haven’t had a chance to thank anyone, yet..

Well, I just want to say; thank you for all your KIND and HONEST comments. I appreciate all comments even those of you that disagree with some of my thoughts..I enjoy reading different views…

I started this blog, well, basically because of the mess my life was in, I’m glad I have somewhere to pour out my thoughts, I never thought anyone would actually read what I wrote! lol.. but anyway…….

So, yeah, basically; thank you.

Exams equal Suicide….

So, I switched on my local news today to find that, three boys all in the same class, all at the same school had committed suicide. No one knows why.

My problem is this; just last week another child at a similar school nearby also committed suicide due to the level of stress caused by exams.

Every one has stress in their lives. Stress can help people make the most of opportunities and what they do, or it can cause health problems.

Some children sail through exams with very little stress. In fact, some parents wish their children would get more stressed about exams! For others even small tests cause real anxiety.

For me, exams caused stress, I never slept and not because I was studying but because I literally could not sleep. The fear of an examination really scared me, I was petrified and almost always buckled under the pressure and failed.

At 16, I left school and went to a local college and took up a BTEC National Diploma equivalent to three a-levels. The reason I took this course was because examinations were not a part of the course. I breezed through the course because it was all coursework and I got the equivalent of 3 A’s at A-level, however I know this would not have been the case had I done A-Levels.

So, is this stress really necessary for children?

Passing exams is seen to be a passport to a successful career, for a small minority, the pressure of trying to succeed can have serious and sometimes fatal consequences.

Figures from the government’s drug watchdog in the UK, MHRA, show that in 1995 46,000 anti-depressant prescriptions were given to teenagers between 16 and 18 in full-time education. By last year this had risen to 190,000. There has also been a rise of almost 50 percent in the prescription of so-called “happy drugs” such as Prozac and Seroxat to under 16s. This has risen from 76,000 in 1996 to over 500,000. This figure could be higher because prescriptions from private doctors and those given to hospital patients are not included.

So, where does this end? When are the government going to realise what exams are doing to the younger generation of our society…..

These are the children of the future.

New Forum……..

www.bchillaxed.runboard.com

I have literally just activated this, I know nothing much about forums but I’m gonna give it a shot and I may get someone to give me a wee hand………..

It’s going to be – anything goes…….talk about what you want…..when you want……

If there are any problems – email me.. my contact address is down the left side panel of the blog….

thanks

How can I tell my children I know longer love their father?

I opened the Daily Mail today to find this article..

How am I going to tell my two children I no longer love their father the way I should, and we are splitting up? My daughter, 18 and son, 17, are going to be very upset. No one else is involved; we have both been faithful. I have been aware of my feelings for the past two to three years and discussed them with my husband. He is also very upset, as he believed that being married meant sticking together. We have been married for 30 years but I just do not love him anymore. How do I tell my children?

I read this and was completely shocked, upset and yet, angry.

How should any human being love another? I wish I could answer ‘unconditionally’ but even parents can find unconditional love difficult. How much harder is it then for men and women who marry not knowing how each of them may change over the years?

I mean these two people, fell in love, exchanged vows and dreams, bent over the cot containing your sweet first born, then wondered what the baby boy would grow up to be. Somewhere along the way that love was lost. Or perhaps her love got lost?

How can two people fall out of love?

About three years ago I asked my father – why? Why did you leave my mother?

His reply, ‘I fell out of love’.

Now, more and more I realise that I’m not going to be making any hasty decisions anytime soon regarding relationships. This would be my worst nightmare. For a short time, I thought in the back of my mind that my ex and I would get back together, but I’m so glad that we didn’t. I realise that this probably would be me in 20years time.

I’m moving on and leaving all my baggage behind. When I return to the Middle East, I’ve got a new job to keep me occupied for the forthcoming months…partner or no partner, I don’t want one. I’ve had these feelings before. What has happened to this family in the above report is absolutely awful. I know myself, and I’m a stronger person without a guy, that would only complicate things. If the right person comes along – who knows? But also, who knows what would happen ten years down the line…………… is it possible to fall out of love?

Should Porn Be Banned?

At the moment, pornographic material showing adults over the age of 16 or 18 (depending on which country) is legal. Child pornography is entirely illegal at the moment and hopefully will stay that way. Should pornography depicting adults be available to adults, or be banned completely? What is meant by ‘pornography’ – does the term include books, magazines, pictures, the Internet?

We aspire to live in a country free of censorship in all its form; free speech is an ideal we cherish. Censorship is only deployed when free speech becomes offensive to others. This is not the case with pornography, as it is filmed legally by consenting adults for consenting adults, and thus offends no-one. Pornography, contrary to what the Proposition have argued, neither injures nor offends anyone, and is a legitimate tool to stimulate our feelings and emotions in much the same way as music, art or literature does.

Pornography debases human interactions by eliminating love, laughter and all other emotions, and reducing them to the crudely sexual. Sex is an important factor in relationships – the proposition are not prudes – but by no stretch of the mark is it the be all and end all of them. Pornography also debases the human body, and exploits those who are lured into it due to desperation. It also encourages unhealthy, objectifying attitudes towards the opposite sex; it is naïve to suppose that pornography is a victimless crime. The victim is the very fabric of society itself.

As you can see, I’ve looked at both sides of the coin BRIEFLY…….

What do you think?

1/5 children have met someone from the net!

Recent research in the UK has suggested that 1/5 children have met a complete stranger off the internet..

Children- below the age of 16 that is ….

Some of these kids also visit illicit sites….

Alot of parents have no idea what their children are doing on the net….

Do parents have full knowledge of what their kids are doing ?? Or are too many parents computer illiterate??

Is there a way to stop this?

Captivity – Let them go!

When are people going to stand up and speak out for these helpless animals?

”A newborn killer whale found bleeding on a Mexican beach has become the centre of an international controversy over whether she should stay in Mexico or be sent to a US marine theme park.

Killer whales, the largest and most intelligent members of the dolphin family, live in tight-knit pods that can travel 75 miles (120km) a day in search of prey. ”Scientists would have to find Pascuala’s family and hope it would accept her.”

Of course they will friggin accept her!?! Jesus, I hate these lame ass excuses these people make up just so that they make a lil money! For gods sake, just what we need.. another poor animal put into a tank that won’t be cleaned, it will have nothing natural in it and won’t even be big enough to feel like home…….

I’m sick of it… truly… god help these poor creatures..

Gordon Brown to take on P.M

Personally I think if this man is voted as Prime Minister, England will be making yet another mistake.

This man is power hungry, agressive and will not take the thoughts of British Citizens into account.

Look at the mess he made of pensions for short term and he’s too godamn stupid to realise it.

The first thing he has declared is that the new Government should be “Transparent” – transparent? LOL
Then he tells his party to vote for secrecy when it comes to their Expenses. Don’t say he didn’t tell them!
With so many cushy jobs to be dished out,no-one would vote against his wishes.

He’s shouting: HEALTH! Like that idiot Blair shouted EDUCATION!

So how come he can be elected P.M without an election, as such.

The Queen herself does in fact appoint the Prime Minister. It is put before the current party and they decide. The decision is then taken to the queen who decides to agree or disagree.

He doesn’t need to be elected or even a member of parliament. The convention is that he has to resign if the House of Commons passes a vote of no confidence in him, so the Queen is only likely to appoint someone who can command a majority.

So… basically the UK could end up with a friggin Mickey Mouse as their next P.M

Thank god, I’m Northern Irish but then again that’s a whole other story… I mean Ian Paisley and Martin Mcguinness working alongside each other? lmaoooooooooooooo

Should firearms be illegal?

After the attack on VTC , I began to ask myself; how could such a monster end up with a firearm? Someone who had been referred to a psychologist was able to go online and purchase not only one but two firearms.

Now, it seems, you don’t even have to purchase the gun for yourself.

The following is unbelievable but very true.

A 10 Month old baby has been given a gun licence. Yes, a 10 Month old baby.

A 10-month-old baby from Chicago cannot walk or talk but he does have his own gun permit. Bubba Ludwig’s father got the licence by filling out an online application. Is this not completely crazy? The child now owns a 12 gage shot gun. 86 White onix baretta ( excuse the spelling ) – According to the father , ‘It’s actually pretty neat.’

I was thinking, these parents aren’t right in the head. They are crazy and I think that is pretty damn obvious -I mean, who calls their child; Bubba Ludwig ??

Help Find Madeleine!

It’s been over 2 weeks. I can’t believe they haven’t found her yet. She is 4 years old, out there with no mummy or daddy. Come on- People are not doing enough. Please check the poster above. Have you seen this little girl? Her right eye holds the clue. She may not have the same colour of hair, whoever has taken her may have dyed it, it may be a different style, but please everyone. I ask every blogger to post this on their blogs. Spread the word, the internet is the fastest way of communication.